How often should one have s*x: Expert dispels the myths
Being in a relationship, one might sometimes wonder how often they "should" have sex. Is once a week too much or too little? This topic is so sensitive and individual that discussing it with friends is hard. A doctor has provided some clarity on the matter.
26 July 2024 09:33
Dr. Rena Malik, a well-known doctor and expert in urology, decided to share her knowledge about "sexual norms" in relationships. In the podcast "Diary of A CEO," the specialist addressed the frequently asked question by couples: how often should we have sex? Her statement sheds new light on this delicate topic.
The doctor cited research findings, which indicate that people in relationships mostly have sex about once a week on average. So, what does she recommend for couples?
"Quantity isn't the most important thing"
According to Dr. Malik, there is no universal norm regarding the frequency of sexual intercourse in a relationship. The expert emphasised that every couple is different and has their individual needs.
Instead of focusing on numbers, the urologist encouraged people to focus on the quality and satisfaction of both partners.
"As long as you are both satisfied with the amount of sex you're having. Say you're having mind-blowing sex once a month and you're so happy with that, that's fine, right? But let me tell you some averages. On average, the average American has sex 52 times a year, so about once a week. But that's very based on age. So you look at a 20-year-old, they're having sex about 80 times a year."
The expert believes that good sex once a month is better than ten average encounters.
"Ultimately, it is not about keeping up with the Joneses. They could be having five minutes sex four times a week, and you're having a passionate love-making experience that lasts an hour once a week," she added.
Intimate moments have a positive impact
Dr. Malik pointed out that sex and orgasms bring many benefits, and that’s what people should focus on. We become more relaxed, sleep better, and are less irritable thanks to intimate moments.
She recommended being understanding towards oneself and one's partner and focusing on striving for a successful sex life, which may be less frequent but more qualitative.
